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Why I Fight: Recovery Survivors Share What Keeps Them on Track

by guest writer, Constance Ray Addiction is an ugly place. It eats your brain, changes your personality, and clouds your focus from what’s truly important in life. But once you get sober and find clarity? Well, clarity provides the ability to zoom out from yourself and see the bigger picture. It’s this bigger picture that enables recovery graduates to get a better idea of what drives their addiction, what they need to heal themselves, and what really matters in life….
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The Truth Behind Self-Sabotage

Ever find yourself perplexed as to why you do the thing you later wished you didn’t do? You know that it goes against everything you want, and yet you still do it. Why? It may be that you hit the snooze button so many times you end up skipping your workout… It may be that you find zero willpower to pass on the cookie once it’s in front of you, even though you’ll be hating yourself for it afterwards… It…
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Your MOST powerful tool

Have you ever found that you might be constantly trying to “fix yourself”? I definitely used to! For most of my life, I had an attitude of fixing myself. I’ve known this for some time, and I’ve observed that my internal attitude towards most things is to try to make them better. I am constantly looking at what I need to improve. On any given day, I might be looking at what needs to improve in my health, my weight, my fitness,…
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Loving My Imperfections

As you may have noticed, I’ve lately been on a theme of reflecting about my attitudes about my body. I know I am not alone in having a love-hate relationship with my body; so given that I am in a helper/healer role, I aspire that some of my insights and experience will be helpful to you as well. This week I had an opportunity to step into deeper acceptance and even embracing of some of the imperfections of my body. I had…
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A Little Exercise To Deepen Body-Love

How would your relationship with your body change if you looked at it as having a soul of itself? Let’s try this experiment: think of a child or pet you really love and cherish. The innocence of the child or pet helps you feel the purity of your well-wishes towards them. Feel all of the good, joy and  wellbeing you wish for them. Hold them in your heart for a moment.  (If you’re having a hard time choosing someone, you can imagine…
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The Fight With Your Body

Are you in an internal battle with your body?  You know, the kind of battle where you feel your body is not cooperating with you and not doing what you want it to do? When I was young I HATED my feet. I now love my feet but I’ll tell you about that later. MANY of us have an adversarial relationship with our bodies at one point or another. Whether it is because of our weight, skin appearance, aging, pain, stiffness, injuries…
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The Emotional Gripping Behind Pain

I know my mom will not mind me telling your this story. It was new year’s day, 2010.  My mother and I were sitting at the breakfast table in her home in Venezuela. She was restless, struggling with an incredibly itchy rash on her face and neck. As I ate my breakfast and read the newspaper, I was suddenly startled by an anguished, desperate squeal she let out. “Aaaaaaaarghhhh!!!!”  … I can’t really capture the degree of frustration, despair and exasperation in her…
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Coffee good or bad?

Lately I’ve been loving my coffee. I’m on a kick of drinking a cup every morning, which is not usual for me; so I’m paying attention. I also often preach moderation with coffee so I’m curious as to what this new ‘habit’ might be about. Depending on who you ask or what you read, you may hear that caffeine is terrible for your health or you may hear that it has great health-promoting effects. To illustrate the intensity of the debate…
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Practicing Emotional Hygiene

Last week I wrote about the possibility of our emotions having an impact on our physical health. I shared how Chinese Medicine draws direct correlations between organs that seem to be affected by difficult emotions, especially when these emotions are repressed. I believe where emotions are stored or processed in any given person is a highly individual experience. (Like my client with Crohn’s disease, stress and grief being held in his colon.) And last week I offered a few prompting…
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Where do emotions go?

Imagine for a second that you’re feeling really, REALLY angry. What is happening in your body at that moment? Obviously, this anger is an event that is taking place inside your body; but where and what exactly is it? Obviously, there is no anger “organ” but you have a clear sensation in your body that you recognize as distinctly different from sadness or joy, or worry, or anxiety, or excitement. You know all of these different emotional states, and you…
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